Is Work And Money Good For Children??

           This week I want to talk about work and finances. I know that this is a pretty broad topic, so I want to focus on the impact that these things can have on children.


To start off I want to share two different peoples experiences that I am personally close to. Both of them were raised in a loving and caring home. The first was someone that was raised with care and their parents gave them everything they needed and wanted and they wanted for nothing. This person graduated high school and went to college a couple states away from where their parents lived. They were excited to “start their life” but they ran into a problem. They told me that they had never even cooked for themselves before and that their mother always had food ready for them. They didn’t know how to cook or how to clean. They also wanted to be financially independent but they had no idea how to even look for a job. They didn’t know how to budget or how bills worked. They were used to their parents doing everything for them

The other person was raised having to work. They were loved dearly by their parents but if they wanted something they had to work for it. In their family they had choirs they had to complete and each week the choirs rotated. So each week they had to do different things whether it be cooking dinner, washing dishes, feeding and watering the animals, cleaning the living room or kitchen, etc..  Now when they moved off to college they were able to cook for themselves and knew how to take care of their apartment and also how to work to provide for themselves. They knew how to budget because their parents taught them with the money that they had earned by doing extra jobs around the house. They learned to pay for their own things and bills because their parents had them pay for their own car and car insurance and different things like that.

I know that the first person's parents really cared for them and didn’t want their precious child to go through any difficulty or hardships in their lives but did the parents truly prepare them to go out on their own and give them the skills to provide for themselves. I know that it is sometimes hard for parents to see their child go through trials and hardships but I truly believe that when you love someone you want them to grow. True Love is how much you are dedicated to someone's spiritual growth and wellbeing. If you love them you do not want to stunt their growth. I truly believe that Heavenly Father feels the same way about us when he sees us going through trials and hardship but he allows us to make mistakes and to learn from them. Before we came unto this world we fought against Satan and the reason we fought in that war was because Lucifer wanted to have us live without making any mistakes or in other words he wanted to take away our agency. If we lived like that we would not grow and become stronger and that is not what Heavenly Father wants from us. He wants us to grow and become strong and that is why He chose Jesus Christ's plan. We should use that as an example of how we raise our children. We need to let them experience hard things and make mistakes so that they can grow and become stronger spiritually, physically, and mentally. 

Working together as a family has multiple benefits. If you do it right you and your children can enjoy working together and create bonds with each other that you would never have without those experiences of hardship. Most of the time it even creates a stronger bond than when you and your family are playing together because when you are playing it is usually in a competitive environment. For example basketball, football, soccer, baseball, etc. are pitting each other against the other whereas when you are working together it is in a cooperative environment where everyone is working as one to get the job done.


I just want to say one last thing before I end it for the week. Heavenly Father loves each and every one of us more than we could ever know. So shouldn’t we use our Heavenly Parents as examples to how we should parent our children. Matthew 5:15-16 I believe that we should help our children find their talents so that they may let their light shine and not be hidden under a bushel of ignorance of how or what they can do.


Thanks for sticking with me till the end! If you have any questions or comments leave a comment.

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